Two Conversations I Just Can't Shake

I have had two conversations recently that I keep thinking about over and over.

In both of these discussions, the individuals told me about being overwhelmed, addicted to their work, consumed with being busy, having little time for sleep or relationships, and constantly feeling stressed and anxious.

As I often do I asked them what they truly valued?

In each conversation, they listed their values and then followed with, "I know I am not living at all in a way that shows I value those things".

This is not the first time I have had conversations like this, but I believe these two have stuck with me this week because these discussions seem to be happening more often.

Many tell me they value family, community, strong marriages, health, work, etc., but live in a way that is a direct contradiction to these stated values.

They take little time to cultivate their marriages because they are too busy. As a result, their marriages are quite stale.

They give their kids leftovers as they engage with their phones while their children attempt to engage with them. As a result, their kids feel distant.

They pay little attention to their mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health because they are too consumed with work and getting ahead professionally. As a result, they feel tired and worn out.

It is no wonder why 52% report they have been or are burned out.

Despite this, there is good news. I continually see and engage with people who desire to change and begin designing their lives around their values.

I am seeing people define their boundaries.

I am seeing many rethink their career approach and prioritize their health and their families.

They are not just saying what they value, they are the embodiment of these values.

What do you really value?

Does the way you are living demonstrate your belief in those values? If not, it is time for a change.

On The Journey With You,

Carlos

This edition was first published in The Life Design Newsletter on LinkedIn.